During National Adoption Month you’ll get to hear from some amazing people. Today’s guest post is from Michelle Benner, a pastor’s wife and adoptive mom.
When my husband, Phil and I got married, we had already decided that we would probably adopt and have biological children if we could. But for some reason, I had this feeling in the back of my mind that we would probably not be able to get pregnant.
We intentionally waited awhile (6 years) before trying to start a family, and after about a year we had some basic infertility tests done and everything came back fine…I honestly was not that surprised, or even necessarily upset, although it would have been nice to have an “answer”. So we took it as our cue to start looking into adoption and decided to go throughBethany Christian Services for a domestic adoption.
Our case worker told us we should find a placement within 6-12 months, possibly less. As it turned out, the agency had just placed a lot of babies and just didn’t have many birth moms coming in for counseling. So we waited. And waited. And waited some more. It was tough – I was nannying part time for some friends from church, but I really just wanted to be home with a baby of my own. My biological clock was definitely ticking – by this time we had been married over 8 years and I was 33 years old. And of course it felt like all my friends were having babies….sigh.